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Riding in Cars with Boys (2001)
IMDB rating: 6.10
Plot: Seriocomic story based on the memoir by Beverly Donofrio, the movie follows a young woman who finds her life radically altered by an event from her teen years. Born in 1950, Beverly grew up bright and ambitious in a working-class neighborhood in Connecticut; her father was a tough but good-hearted cop who listened to his daughter’s problems, and her mother was a nervous woman eager to imagine the worst. From an early age, Beverly displays a keen intelligence and an interest in literature, and dreams of going to college in New York and becoming a writer. However, she also develops an early interest in boys, and at 15 finds herself madly in love with a boy from her high school. However, an attempt to get his attention leads to an embarassing incident at a party, and Ray, a sweet but thick-headed 18-year-old, steps forward to defend her. Beverly and Ray end up making out, and after one thing leads to another, Beverly discovers she’s pregnant. Telling Ray is only marginally less difficult than informing her parents, and at 16, Beverly is a wife and mother. Against the odds, Beverly is determined to still finish high school and go on to college, but that goal becomes more difficult with time, especially after Beverly’s marriage begins to fall apart. Ray tries to do the right thing but has trouble holding a job, and becomes addicted to heroin.
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Riding in Cars with Boys
Directors: Penny Marshall
Actors: Barrymore Drew,Zahn Steve,Garcia Adam,Murphy Brittany,Woods James,Bracco Lorraine,Biography,Comedy,Drama,
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OK, 10 years into one question, major editing:
I had 2 boys: decided not to circumcise.
I have mother-in-law (old-fashioned, only went to school to yr 5 to work on family farm (7 kids in family)) who is dead set for circumcision.
I normally do not listen to her when she tells me that I’m wrong etc etc.. I have grown to ignore her hurtful comments that USED to affect me.
The problem is my son has just rang me from his holiday with his granma and informed me she is not allowing him or his brother to clean their willy’s (they are 9 and 7) because she thinks they are ‘playing with themselves and that’s evil’ (I have already explained to her they need to do this in the bath and it is hygeine)
I told him to just turn around and do it quickly and slyly when she is getting the shampoo out or something, not too much of a problem. But what has bothered me is she has sat the boys down and told them they will die if they don’t get their "willies chopped" she called them (my boys, not their willies) "dirty, gross, ugly"
This has upset me enormously. The boys are scared she will take them to the Dr and get their willies chopped off 
My MIL has actually gone ahead and made a circumcision app (longgggg story) when my eldest was 6months without our consent or knowledge for a day when I had asked her to babysit for me. Obviously that didn’t happen LUCKILY the car ride she had organised had fallen through.
We have not told her the boys said this to us, we want to talk to them when they are home and find out exactly what was said.
How do we approach this subject with my MIL, after all we have been defending our decision for 9 years now and have produced tons of information for her because we understand she grew up in a time when it was a routine procedure.
I have no problem with her whining at me, but taking it to a 9yo and 7yo is surely unacceptable!!?? Am I wrong to be fumingly angry??? What can I tell my beautiful boys ?
And before the pro-circumcision ppl bash me, I am not looking for info, I have my info. I am not looking for a circumcision debate…I’m over them. I am looking for support for my discussion with my MIL. If you cant provide that then dont answer. 
I think your mil has some issues if she feels she can talk to children in that manner, where does your partner stand in all of this? They should have the right to try and set their mother straight…as for the children, I’m not sure and I don’t have any I have younger sisters though and she seem to feel a lit better when things are made inti a joke sort of, kinda just joke about it to them maybe say what your mil said to them next time they are bathing but make it silly and not serious it will soon pass and they will laugh about it. Hopefully this helps
Spoonman | Jan 22, 2010
I would keep the boys away from the mother-in-law, period. First, at their ages, they’re quite old enough to use the facilities without assistance from their grandmother. Second, her beliefs are outdated, and uninformed. Unless they develop phimosis, an often painful condition where the foreskin retracts or doesn’t separate from the glans penis, there is absolutely no medical need for circumcision, and her telling them that cleaning their penises is a nasty habit is so hygienically irresponsible. What she is doing to your sons borders on psychological abuse, and I would keep her away from them until she learns to respect your rights, as well as your wishes, as their parent.
RangersLeadTheWay | Jan 22, 2010
I think your Husband should be stepping in here and giving her a blast, i wouldn’t be taking the kids to visit her anymore either, i wouldn’t be able to contain myself and would give her an ear full myself, she has no right to take matters into her own hand and i’d be threatning her with legal action even if it meant we didn’t speak anymore, you need to do something now so that never happens again because if you don’t one day you may pick up your kids with Circumcised Penis’s.
I hate work. | Jan 22, 2010
Threaten to cut her off from the grandchildren if she doesn’t change her backward attitude. Or, have her arrested for child abuse or endangerment.
If neither of those are possible, is there an outside educated/enlightened person she trusts that can talk some sense into her, or at least convince her that her facts and attitude are extremely wrong. Possibly someone from her church.
Bruce | Jan 22, 2010
Some body should remind her who’s children they are. Tell her she’s the grand mother and you’re the parent and if she doesn’t like the way you want to raise them that’s to bad. And tell her to stay out of the bathroom when the boys are taking a bath. She doesn’t need to be in there if they are at that age.
Mr McGoo | Jan 23, 2010
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